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the lack of self love (and why that’s so dangerous)

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” 
― Gautama Buddha

This message isn’t just for women; it’s a message for everyone. It’s an important one. It has to do with self-love.

The basic message is: You can never give the love you are meant and so desperately want to give, if you don’t love yourself completely.

When we are born we don’t have negative thoughts about ourselves. We don’t have thoughts about hating ourselves because our hair is too curly, we are too short or too tall, or we can’t run as fast as other people.  We learn these things. They come from the feeling of lack. We only get these feelings from the ideas we learn from others about what “perfect” is. We are all chasing our own idea of perfect and by doing so, we are living in a constant state of lack.

This is dangerous because if you are living in a state of lack, you are telling yourself that you don’t love yourself the way you are. There is something wrong with you. If you could only change this or that then life would be so much better. But that’s a lie! The only thing that is based on is some idea you have in your brain of “perfect.”

Now please don’t beat yourself up right now because this is ringing a very loud bell in your ear. Chances are it is because we ALL do this. It’s important to understand, though, how doing this affects your entire life and those around you. If you are living in lack you will search for a “love” that will fill the hole. You will constantly be searching for people, things, activities to make you feel the “love” that you think you are missing. The problem is, the only person who can fill this void, is yourself, with your own love. No one or no thing can do it for you.

Our relationships with others are also affected by our lack. We look to them to fill our own self-doubts, and when we stop feeling like they are doing that we begin to get angry. “They don’t love me the way that they should”, “or they used to be different”, or “they don’t care.” In most cases these things are not true. It’s ourselves noticing the void again. It was just a temporary fix.

I felt it was important to share this information. As I am realizing this in my own life and working on loving myself, I knew it was important to share with others. I hope everyone learns to love themselves. The world will benefit so much from the love you give.

I hope you know how important you really are.